Ask Kiara: Boyfriend Vs. Bestfriends

Question: “I’m dating this guy that everyone thinks is weird. He is really sweet. What should I do?”

Answer:

Growing up, you started making best friends and as you did this, their opinions became necessary to you. This is why it bothers you so much that they don’t like your boyfriend.
Just like everyone, you lean on your friends.
Girls have a tendency to gather together and take in everyone’s opinion on the guys they are currently dating.  If you ask a group of people if they listen to their friends, they may say a ‘little bit’ but they are lying to themselves. Every body listens to their friends about eighty-five percent of the time!

The best thing to do is focus on what you want. Your friends aren’t dating him, you are. Your feelings are important and they should respect that. They weren’t there to see his facial expressions or body language, you were! True friends should support you on your decisions.
Many girls say it’s hard to find a sweet guy. So what if he is a little weird or a tad bit strange? The weird ones are the most interesting. He could be weird because he acts like himself around you. There are so many people who act like something they’re not, so appreciate that you have someone real!
Everyone says friends want the best for you, and that is right. Friends want to make sure you don’t do things that you will later regret. You can’t get mad at your friends for not liking him because everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but make sure you do what you want!
Ashley Philips, sophomore of Swansboro high said, “Sure, some of my friends hate my boyfriend, but I don’t care. We’ve been dating for awhile and we’re happy!”
Dating someone “weird” isn’t a bad thing. If you are truly happy with this guy don’t let anyone bring you down. This is your relationship and it only involves you and him. Not you, him, and all your friends.

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Overcoming Breakup Triggers

Whether you broke up with someone or were broken up with, many of us have created bad love habits with and because of our former partners that need to be broken. Perhaps you're feeling the urge to call your ex all the time, or maybe you tend to reminisce about the good times. These are normal and perfectly acceptable feelings, but now that you're no longer in a relationship, its time to kick these bad love habits.

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Identifying Triggers After A Breakup

The first step in the process of letting go of these love habits after a break up is to look at your triggers - the things that might tempt you to seek contact with your ex again. These could be as innocuous as driving to work and feeling odd not seeing their coffee cup in the holder next to yours, or as obvious as youranniversary date.

Think about the events, places, things, people and dates that you may need a bit of help maneuvering through in the next couple of weeks or months. Does eating alone in a restaurant trigger you after a break up? CominBreakup

to an empty house? Hearing the phone ring?

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What To Do About Your Breakup Triggers

Once you've got a list of some of your after a break up triggers, your next step is to brainstorm ideas of things and ways to feel good that you can do - instantly - to take your mind off things.

The premise behind this idea is simple: if you are able to distract yourself for an hour, the likelihood that you'll want to succumb to a love trigger after a break up is reduced considerably. As an example, think about the last time you really had to go to the bathroom, but discovered that the closest restroom was quite a distance away. If something else caught your eye while en route to your destination, did you get distracted - even temporarily? Breaking a love habit is a similar concept, but considerably easier because its not a driving 'need', like going to the bathroom is.

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What To Do After A Breakup

WORK ON THINGS THAT INTEREST YOU. 

Each time you postpone your interest in your ex after a break up - especially if you choose another activity that you find compelling - your love habit will slowly erode away from being a driving force in your life. And since your love habit isn't a physiological response (like the bathroom example earlier), the need won't come back any stronger after you've postponed it.